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The definition of the unresolved grief is severe chronic reaction to the loss, in which the person is not able to complete the resolution stage of the mourning process within a certain time, normally a year.
The loss of the loved one is a painful, overwhelming feelings and process for all of us. This healing process itself is the job of the bereavement, it is happening during a long period of time.
The characteristics of the normal grief are: the inability to experience pleasure for a significant length of time. The mourning person may often feel down and is not interested in activities that used to do or is not able to enjoy them.
The other main feature is the deep, persistent sadness. The person during the grieving process can feel pervasive sadness and sorrow in most of the day and period of time. But in the normal grief the mood is variable and alterable the person live through fluctuant affections. Outside stressor and or memories can cause intensive pain but emotions go up and down even in a day.
Although bereavement focuses on the loss of other the grieving person may often feel down or experience the feelings of low self – confidence and or self esteem. And there is well-known, well-experienced feeling of guilt, the feeling is full of regrets of behaving and doing things differently before the leave if the loved one!
The mourning work usually can not cause disturbancies in the normal routine of the life activities but sometimes the level and the results of the daily tasks or concentration for the jobs are effected by depressed mood.
Normal grief lasts usually a year. Symptoms of the grief are still more than a year or there are prolonged inability to feel pleasure or the person may feel himself herself worthless or there is permanent feeling of guilt without any reasonable cause or the person is not able to manages his her normal life activities or any other mental illnesses may emerge eg substance abuse, sleeping disorder psychotic episode, in these cases the mourning process are not sufficient. These are the most common and serious signs of the inappropriate bereavement, the grief must be unresolved and the person needs to turn to professional help.
It is important to know many people have not entirely unresolved grief, and frequently this is the reason in the deep under other psychological problems on the surface.